When to Take Away Mom or Dad's Car Keys
Plus, how does Social Security funding work?
Ric Edelman: It’s Thursday, July 25th. On today's show, will you be ready when it's time for mom or dad to stop driving? It's the car key conversation. You're going to have it one day. If not first with your parents, then with your spouse.
I found the keys to the universe in an old, parked car. That's what Bruce Springsteen said. And he summed it up perfectly. Our love affair with cars is not about the cars. It's about freedom. To go anywhere you want. Anytime you want. But at some point, we all become a danger to ourselves and others when we are behind the wheel. As we age, our visual skills, reaction time, our processing speed, they all decline.
Here's the first thing you should do. Go look at Dad's car. Are there dents? That means they're hitting things. Are the tires scuffed up? That means they're running into things, like the curb. Next, get in the car with mom or dad, watch them drive. Are they missing traffic lights or stop signs? Are they driving too slow? Too close to the car in front of them? Are they struggling to stay in their lane? Are they getting confused about how to get where they're going even though they've been there a thousand times? Is having a conversation with you in the car making them drive even worse? This is not about age. This is entirely about their ability, and ability can be diminished at any age.
If you're worried, bring it up with them. Brace yourself for an unpleasant conversation. There are three main thoughts that they're gonna have. Losing their freedom, fear of being unable to get where they need to go, and this being a sign of their aging. Which means incapacity and death. Don't tell them they can't drive. Try to get them to reach that conclusion. If that fails, get a doctor to tell them this. As for losing their freedom, that's what Uber is for, and delivery services. As for being a sign of their aging, ask them how they feel about not being able to play football anymore. They likely don't miss that, and they won't miss driving either, even though they think they will.
As for incapacity and death, be empathetic. Don't ignore this. Commiserate and be compassionate. Help them digest this and get used to it. But in the end, you must get them to stop driving.
Coming up next on the show, a question that I got from one of our listeners.
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Ric Edelman: Welcome back. The Truth About Your Future continues. I got an email from Lakshima in Rockland County, New York. Here's what she wrote:
“Hi Ric, heard your podcast about national debt, very well-articulated and informative. But I have one question. Why do you say that Social Security comes under a government spend category? Isn't Social Security self-funding?”
Well, yes, Social Security is self-funding, but it is still a government expense. The way Social Security works is that it collects payroll taxes. You know, when you work, you pay Social Security tax. That money goes to Social Security, which they then redistribute to Social Security beneficiaries, meaning retirees or those who are disabled, et cetera. But at the end of the day, this is a government run program and the money that the government is distributing to its beneficiaries is a government obligation.
So even though there may be a sequestering of the income and expenses, it is nevertheless a government obligation. And therefore, it counts as a government spending category, which there was a better answer, but there isn't.
You can send me your question as well, just send it to AskRic@TheTruthAYF.com. The link is in the show notes.
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Ric Edelman: On tomorrow's show, investing in ESG. Plus, the investment thesis for crypto. Yeah, with all eyes on spot bitcoin ETFs, it's easy to forget that there's so much to crypto. Back in March, I hosted the Wealth Management Convergence, a brand-new conference with about 150 financial advisors in attendance in Florida. We did a session there featuring three experts, Robbie Mitchnick, the Head of Digital Assets for BlackRock, Tim Rice, the CEO of Coin Metrics, and Miguel Kudry, the CEO and Co-Founder of L1. And I'm going to play the recording of our session that we did in March with these three experts, so you can learn the investment thesis for crypto, custodying, benchmarking, portfolio construction, and a whole lot more. That's tomorrow.
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